So how creative is the first title of my very first foray into the blogging world? As I'm sitting here late Friday night after a gluttonous Thai dinner with friends with my pot belly protruding out of my trackie daks all I can hear is the voice of my dear Vanese urging me to add some wit & use my comical relationship disasters into my own Carrie Bradshaw, satirical & humorous entries..
Firstly let's get a few things straight - although I do have had the odd few comments on my resemblance to the divine Ms Bradshaw (petite, high heel obsessed, rollercoaster love life) I do not aspire to imitate Carrie - for some reason I don't think that Sex & The City - Broadmeadows will fly that well nor have the same pizazz & garner the same cult following??? I am an avid Sex & The City admirer for all of 6 seasons & can recount all of Carrie's boyfriends in seasonal order (seriously I can) - I can identify alot of of myself in her character - the funnel of less than stellar men who always disappoint, the loyal band of girlfriends who are always there to pick her up & very importantly the self effacing ability to laugh at her own relationship predicaments - cause sometimes you have nothing else to do!
What I adore further about Ms Bradhsaw is despite the various disappointments from love & the men she chooses - Carrie will never settle for anything less then what she is worth. The one mantra I have adopted (ok I stole it) is "nothing less than butterflies" I think one very big mistake we women make is that we sometimes oversee what our heart's own yearnings and desires & more importantly - what we are WORTH & settle in a relationship which is secure & safe. Does security and a safety net & having someone to go home to each night equate long term happiness? Why in this day & age where we have fought for the power of the vagina in the workforce & to break down so many social barriers(yes we have heaps to go but OMG we have our 1st female PM!) are we willing to settle in matters of the heart?
I don't refute the notion of commitment or love...I love love...most of my closest friends are in long term relationships, married with kids or heading that way down in the aisle & I can vouch for each couple that they have found in the other - the best in themselves & one another.
That is what a real relationship should bring...I will never toot my own horn or proclaim perfection cause none of us are..we love, we hate, we hurt, we get hurt..I have had my fair share of heartache, been left to pick up the remnants of my esteem & confidence wondering why that person has not fought for me the way I fought for him, but most importantly I admit to my fuck ups which have been aplenty..
So dear friends, the purpose of these entries is to document what I have learnt over the years from the rollercoaster relationship debacles of my 2o's, I'm sure that there will be many more to come but now I hope to bring my learning experiences to you- and hopefully laughter- cause sometimes- there's nothing else to do :)
I hope you enjoy!
